Why I Got Into A Relationship And Some Thoughts On LTR Game
Date de l'article :
30.01.2022
Chapo de l'article :
Should Single Guys Use Emoticons
Leaving the Ghosts of an Ex Behind
Bitchiness as a Defense Mechanism: Lessons from Blogging About My Ex
Can You be Friends With an Ex?
The Men We Know We Have No Future With…
Men Who Ghost Before the First Date
No Strings Attached is Bullshit.
Do Women Really Want Equality In Relationships?
Your Best Friend the Hag
Why Being Single Doesn’t Suck
Rules For Hanging Out With Your Ex
How to Approach Guys in a Bar
How NOT to Approach A Guy In A Bar
8 Facts about Cheating
Some of my readers may be wondering why I got into a relationship. Or maybe if there’s any real point to a relationship.
I got into a relationship because 1.) I want to work on my LTR game 2.) I enjoy having a girl around who I enjoy both fucking the shit out of her and hanging out with her and doing random things and 3.) there are needs we get from women beyond sexual needs, in particular they’re affection needs.
The last point comes from Sixty. The 60 Years of Challenge material. Before I got into a relationship with Ghetto Club, I not only talked to Krauser about it, but I also made sure to read 60′s Relationship Roulette.
There’s a lot of good points in there, I’m not going to post everything he said, but I’ll post quotes, bits and pieces that really hit home with me and I’m making sure to take note of and focus on while I’m in a relationship.
One thing he mentions is:
Who is Really Good With Women
Having sex with lots of women and racking up numbers is not that impressive. Getting
laid is easy.
I know lots of guys who can do this and still aren’t very good dealing with women and
relationships.
Good point. You have to be versatile. I want to be able to rack up numbers, have one night stands, and have girls who are really into me that I enjoy relationships with… so, what is the goal then?
The Goal
What is impressive to me is guys who can get female affection and consistent sex from
a good girl for long periods of time without having to give away their masculine
power or follow a woman’s agenda just to keep getting it.
Okay…
The true test of how good a man is with women is not how he satisfies his desire for
sex, but how he deals with his need for affection.
He delves deeper into relationships by talking about women and their agenda…
It’s Not You It’s Her Agenda
Why do guys continue to get married despite a 70% divorce rate? Ego. They actually
think that because she wants to get married, he really must be special.
He tells a short story to explain his point:
A friend of mine had been dating her boyfriend for just over 2 years. She
absolutely adores this guy. Talks all the time about how they are madly in love. They
hang out every day and take long trips together. She is 27 and had been talking lately
about how she wants to get engaged and isn’t going to wait around forever. So with
mathematical precision she gave her boyfriend an ultimatum disguised in the form of a
question.
Where is this relationship going?
She didn’t like his answer and she left him the same day. Packed up her stuff and poof
she was gone. Less than 3 months later she is in a serious relationship with a new guy.
She is moving into his house this week. They are engaged to be married. There is even
talk of a child on the way. What Happened?
Women are tough when it comes to their agendas and what they want. I give them
credit. They don’t mess around. No matter how cool you think you are, these
relationships are not about you. Guys need to realize that just because she wants to
move in with you or marry you doesn’t mean she likes you the best. You are not special.
What would your girlfriend choose?
You or her agenda?
Women Do Not Really Love Us
Women do not really love us. This is the harsh truth. At least not in the way we all hope
to be loved. Unconditionally. The only way to get consistent, reliable and pure female
affection is to follow the agenda. Women aren’t giving their affection away for free. You
don’t get her compassion, hugs and feminine spirit just because you are a cool
guy. There is a price to pay. And if you won’t play ball there are many other guys who
gladly will.
And it is only one of those guys who will get her affection
Wow. There’s some fucking truth in there. I know you know some girls that ALWAYS have a boyfriend. They break up with one and instantly… they have a new guy. It’s essentially just part of her agenda – to have a boyfriend. She’s not with you because she loves you, she’s with you because she wants to have a boyfriend. It’s worth noting and keeping in mind. My Last Ex was like that. After we broke up, she had a new guy almost immediately. Giving him the same affection I had just gotten (Facebook is a bitch, isn’t it). I had to block her from my Facebook in order to not see that shit because of the effect it had on me. I couldn’t understand how someone who was so into me, who just a couple of weeks ago was telling me she was going to do something special for me to “show me how much I mean to her” could just pick it right back up with another dude. You made me feel like I was the perfect guy for you and now two weeks later, you’ve met another perfect guy? That doesn’t make sense… there can’t be two of us…
Sixty elaborates more on this with talks of purity and affection:
Purity
The marriage trade off. Men get purity. Women get commitment. At first both parties are
happy with the arrangement.
Men just want to feel loved and the benchmark they use is she only has sex with me
equals she loves me. Thus a woman’s purity becomes something that must be
defended at all costs.
The ultimate way to defend purity is by getting married. Even though you still want to
have sex with new women.
Men end up trading their freedom for her purity. Why do men need purity to feel loved?
Why is it so important?
Because most men can’t accept female affection (i.e. snuggling) from a woman who is
fucking another guy. It repulses them. This is rooted in our biology and the M/w
complex.
This feeling intensifies when you’re deeply in love during the honeymoon period. Men in
this state will agree to do almost anything including marriage to keep her from sucking
another guy’s cock. Of course guys will never admit this directly.
Guys only get married because they are getting something out of it. And it sure as hell
ain’t sex. They are getting affection from a pure source.
Even rock stars and celebs end up getting married and they can have sex with any
woman they want. But they can’t get affection from a pure woman. Affection is powerful
stuff, just ask Jay-Z.
Marriage guarantees a man years of consistent, reliable and pure form of the drug he
really wants, female affection.
Guys don’t get married for the sex; they get married for the affection.
That is true. As guys we don’t like the thought of our woman being with another man. I hate when Ghetto Club even hints at her past, which she does sometimes… as did other girls. February Fling did the same shit all of the time. Drop hints about dudes they fucked before me. I never got that. Why would you do such a thing? To test my jealousy? To make me less attracted to you? I don’t get it. I generally just ignore such comments, because there’s really not much else to do about them. But yeah, I wouldn’t like the thought of my girl fucking another dude. It’s funny, because it didn’t matter to me…. until I started liking her. Now it matters, now I find myself wishing she’d never slept with another dude her whole life before me… when months ago when I was initially fucking her, I never cared at all about that. All guys have this problem though from what I can tell. Just ask Roosh, or hell, just read he post when he found out he was with a girl with a “rather experienced past” let’s say. Here’s a quote from Roosh’s post:
At that moment, she was dead to me. Alright maybe not dead, but the freak in the sheets and lady on the streets image I built her up to be imploded like an old Vegas casino. She proceeded to give me details as my face turned from ease and contentment to looking like I was dumping a log in the toilet. I listened to her every word as she told me how guys pounded her multiple holes during one drunken night in college. I had to stop her from telling me more. It was my fault for not recognizing the warning signs: her ambivalence towards condoms, her penchant for public sex, and her love of record-setting gangbang events where a random guy off the street has to put in just a couple strokes to make it count. I should have known.
I continued having condomless sex with her but it just wasn’t the same: I kept imagining my best friends tag-teaming her along with me, asking me if I’m “having a good time” and if she is “always this freaky.” A few more months of that, after these kinky bedroom thoughts progressed into a heterosexual gray area, I decided to end the relationship.
In relationships since then I’ve had to stop girls from opening their big mouth and telling me their past sexual history, lest the image I have of them in my head be disturbed.
It’s a slippery slope. And every girl has a past. My rational mind tells me that there is no madonna and there is no whore. All these girls are the same. Some may party more, some may have a higher number of partners, but it doesn’t really matter – it’s still the same. They all have a past, they all have thoughts and visions of other guys. Crushes, celebrity crushes. All girls are capable of cheating. That’s just the truth of the matter. Many of the girls I’ve slept with have had boyfriends. It feels great to be the other dude, but nobody wants to be the dude that’s getting cheated on.
It really makes me wonder why we accept monogamy as the norm. Rationally it really doesn’t make sense. Men want to be free and have random experiences with new women, and to some extent women do to. But, like 60 says women get into relationships because they have an agenda – the white dress, the wedding, the house in the suburbs with 2 kids. And men get into relationships to get female affection from a pure source.
What else does 60 have to say on the subject?
Just because she married YOU don’t mean she loves you the most. Women don’t marry
the guy they like best. They marry the best guy out of the pool of guys who is willing to
commit to her agenda. The guy she likes best and still fantasizes about is the sexy
adventurous guy who refused to commit.
Again, another point on the agenda of a woman from my first hand experience. I once dated a girl who was real into me and when we finally discussed our future and idea that I would never want to get married, after a discussion about it, we basically reached the conclusion/agreement that she would go off and find another dude to marry, but always sneak around, behind his back, to fuck me. She actually agreed to this. Although, she probably hates me now and I’m sure the deal is off, but just the fact that she would agree to it at the time is funny enough.
The Alternative to Marriage
Instead of getting all your female affection from just one woman you are going to need
to get it from several. It’s easy to get sex from a variety of women but it’s harder to get
affection from a variety of stable, loving women.
Affection Variety
We have two needs sex and affection. Our sexual needs require variety, whereas we
have no issue getting affection from the same woman for many years. So it makes
sense why a man would stay with one woman for a long time to get affection and look
for sexual variety outside of that relationship.
First of all you tough guys need to admit that you need female affection in your life. You
can help fill this need by diversifying where you get your female affection from. One
woman cannot provide all of the female affection you need. Get a second
girlfriend, have a few female friends, babysit your niece. Invite a friend and her daughter
over for a visit. Female affection and feminine energy has no age restriction. From
young girls to grandmothers, each woman has their own special energy that can make a
man feel good.
The Purity/Affection Issue
Second you are going to have to deal with the purity/affection issue. Because by not
committing to ONE woman you are going to be getting some of your female “affection”
from women who are having sex with other guys. She is over your house right now and
wants to snuggle with you.
Sorry guys but this is the truth of this lifestyle. You still up for it? It’s tough but you need
to deal with all of your M/w issues if you want to avoid marriage and still have a constant
flow of female affection in your life.
You may never have purity, but you will always have freedom.
Lifetime dedication to meeting new women
Third you need to constantly meet and seduce high-quality good girls into your rotation.
Not just any random Freak-Buddy is worthy of being a good candidate for the important
job of giving you the female affection you need.
For example, if you settle for any unstable woman just so you can get some scraps of
feminine affection you are going to seriously screw up your life.
Not all of these women will stay with you forever as some will move on when they find a
man that will commit. This will hurt as you love and care for these women a lot. Prepare
for some pain.
Plus these quality girls will need to be replaced again and again over the years. This
means your work is never done.
Rationally, I’ve already accepted the last point. That I’ll always be in and out of relationships. I never expect to settle down and be with one woman forever. I realize that. These women are replaceable though. I had deep feelings for both of my exes, but I realize now Ghetto Club fulfills much of the same needs that they did. As of right now, she’s a good girlfriend and she plays the role well. She seems to absolutely adore me and misses me greatly when I’m not around or don’t talk to her for a few days. I handle this relationship better than I’ve handled past ones, with being less needy, less lovely-dovey and overall more sexual, and I plan to keep it that way. In the same PDF, Sixty outlines his relationship map, and I’ll leave it on this note before this post gets any longer than it needs to be, although there’s plenty more in Relationship Roulette that I could quote from and discuss. Basically, I recommend anyone serious about this shit to read it, and perhaps the rest of 60′s material as well (I still need to read the others myself), but it’s good shit.
So, here it is, 60′s “Maintenance Program” for relationships:
Your maintenance program during the relationship:
1. Golden Rule
She likes me slightly more than I like her.
It’s subtle, but since we met she has always been chasing me. Since I have all of the
core elements in place my interest level in even the most attractive women never rises
above 90%. I know a man with super high interest acts needy by default and being put
on a pedestal is not what she really wants anyway. Or as David Deida says she doesn’t
want to be number one.
This is the meta-frame of our relationship. She worked hard to qualify for me and now
she wants to protect her investment. Little does she know I was crazy about her during
the 90 day screening process. But I kept my cool and my objectivity. I realize if I am not
the prize that all of my other relationship problems are secondary. I also realize that by
not being the prize in a world where a majority of men, advertising, TV shows, and
movies depict women as the prize isn’t a good frame to be operating from.
2. Have a busy life outside of her
My woman is not my only purpose in life. She is one piece of a complex puzzle of
needs. I also have a life full of of friends, family, career, and hobbies. I promise not to
neglect any of them. In fact, they become even more important now that I am in a
relationship.
3. Be a positive challenge
Don’t stop the tension. I understand that by entering into a relationship with you I have
signed up to be a challenge every day. I promise to remember to give you the tension
you deserve in order to keep your sexual attraction for me high. I realize all of the
challenge and tension I created yesterday no longer counts. Today is a new day and I
am seducing you again for the first time.
4. Keep doing the little things right everyday
I will avoid becoming complacent. I understand that attraction is a feeling you get, it’s
not a choice. I will NEVER take this mysterious feeling for granted by forgetting to do
the little things. The .001%. I could probably get away with some of this stuff for a short
period of time but I choose not to. I don’t want to be blindsided one day and have you
say you don’t feel any attraction for me. I know I won’t be getting a warning. At the same time I don’t want to wake up one day and look at my woman and not feel
sexual attraction towards her either. By doing the little things right I will keep her interest
level high. This will make her work even harder for me, which as a result keeps
my attraction for her strong. Being a challenge is a cycle that benefits both of us.
5. Great Sex
I realize that first and foremost this is a sexual relationship. Sex isn’t just an important
part of the relationship, sex IS the relationship. No sex equals no relationship. Our bond
is based on sexual attraction. Although we will always have affection for each other,
without the sexual component we are really just good friends.
I promise to keep fucking you good, trying new things and not treat you like a fragile
piece of glass. I realize you are BOTH my Madonna and my whore and I love you for it.
Leaving the Ghosts of an Ex Behind
Bitchiness as a Defense Mechanism: Lessons from Blogging About My Ex
Can You be Friends With an Ex?
The Men We Know We Have No Future With…
Men Who Ghost Before the First Date
No Strings Attached is Bullshit.
Do Women Really Want Equality In Relationships?
Your Best Friend the Hag
Why Being Single Doesn’t Suck
Rules For Hanging Out With Your Ex
How to Approach Guys in a Bar
How NOT to Approach A Guy In A Bar
8 Facts about Cheating
Some of my readers may be wondering why I got into a relationship. Or maybe if there’s any real point to a relationship.
I got into a relationship because 1.) I want to work on my LTR game 2.) I enjoy having a girl around who I enjoy both fucking the shit out of her and hanging out with her and doing random things and 3.) there are needs we get from women beyond sexual needs, in particular they’re affection needs.
The last point comes from Sixty. The 60 Years of Challenge material. Before I got into a relationship with Ghetto Club, I not only talked to Krauser about it, but I also made sure to read 60′s Relationship Roulette.
There’s a lot of good points in there, I’m not going to post everything he said, but I’ll post quotes, bits and pieces that really hit home with me and I’m making sure to take note of and focus on while I’m in a relationship.
One thing he mentions is:
Who is Really Good With Women
Having sex with lots of women and racking up numbers is not that impressive. Getting
laid is easy.
I know lots of guys who can do this and still aren’t very good dealing with women and
relationships.
Good point. You have to be versatile. I want to be able to rack up numbers, have one night stands, and have girls who are really into me that I enjoy relationships with… so, what is the goal then?
The Goal
What is impressive to me is guys who can get female affection and consistent sex from
a good girl for long periods of time without having to give away their masculine
power or follow a woman’s agenda just to keep getting it.
Okay…
The true test of how good a man is with women is not how he satisfies his desire for
sex, but how he deals with his need for affection.
He delves deeper into relationships by talking about women and their agenda…
It’s Not You It’s Her Agenda
Why do guys continue to get married despite a 70% divorce rate? Ego. They actually
think that because she wants to get married, he really must be special.
He tells a short story to explain his point:
A friend of mine had been dating her boyfriend for just over 2 years. She
absolutely adores this guy. Talks all the time about how they are madly in love. They
hang out every day and take long trips together. She is 27 and had been talking lately
about how she wants to get engaged and isn’t going to wait around forever. So with
mathematical precision she gave her boyfriend an ultimatum disguised in the form of a
question.
Where is this relationship going?
She didn’t like his answer and she left him the same day. Packed up her stuff and poof
she was gone. Less than 3 months later she is in a serious relationship with a new guy.
She is moving into his house this week. They are engaged to be married. There is even
talk of a child on the way. What Happened?
Women are tough when it comes to their agendas and what they want. I give them
credit. They don’t mess around. No matter how cool you think you are, these
relationships are not about you. Guys need to realize that just because she wants to
move in with you or marry you doesn’t mean she likes you the best. You are not special.
What would your girlfriend choose?
You or her agenda?
Women Do Not Really Love Us
Women do not really love us. This is the harsh truth. At least not in the way we all hope
to be loved. Unconditionally. The only way to get consistent, reliable and pure female
affection is to follow the agenda. Women aren’t giving their affection away for free. You
don’t get her compassion, hugs and feminine spirit just because you are a cool
guy. There is a price to pay. And if you won’t play ball there are many other guys who
gladly will.
And it is only one of those guys who will get her affection
Wow. There’s some fucking truth in there. I know you know some girls that ALWAYS have a boyfriend. They break up with one and instantly… they have a new guy. It’s essentially just part of her agenda – to have a boyfriend. She’s not with you because she loves you, she’s with you because she wants to have a boyfriend. It’s worth noting and keeping in mind. My Last Ex was like that. After we broke up, she had a new guy almost immediately. Giving him the same affection I had just gotten (Facebook is a bitch, isn’t it). I had to block her from my Facebook in order to not see that shit because of the effect it had on me. I couldn’t understand how someone who was so into me, who just a couple of weeks ago was telling me she was going to do something special for me to “show me how much I mean to her” could just pick it right back up with another dude. You made me feel like I was the perfect guy for you and now two weeks later, you’ve met another perfect guy? That doesn’t make sense… there can’t be two of us…
Sixty elaborates more on this with talks of purity and affection:
Purity
The marriage trade off. Men get purity. Women get commitment. At first both parties are
happy with the arrangement.
Men just want to feel loved and the benchmark they use is she only has sex with me
equals she loves me. Thus a woman’s purity becomes something that must be
defended at all costs.
The ultimate way to defend purity is by getting married. Even though you still want to
have sex with new women.
Men end up trading their freedom for her purity. Why do men need purity to feel loved?
Why is it so important?
Because most men can’t accept female affection (i.e. snuggling) from a woman who is
fucking another guy. It repulses them. This is rooted in our biology and the M/w
complex.
This feeling intensifies when you’re deeply in love during the honeymoon period. Men in
this state will agree to do almost anything including marriage to keep her from sucking
another guy’s cock. Of course guys will never admit this directly.
Guys only get married because they are getting something out of it. And it sure as hell
ain’t sex. They are getting affection from a pure source.
Even rock stars and celebs end up getting married and they can have sex with any
woman they want. But they can’t get affection from a pure woman. Affection is powerful
stuff, just ask Jay-Z.
Marriage guarantees a man years of consistent, reliable and pure form of the drug he
really wants, female affection.
Guys don’t get married for the sex; they get married for the affection.
That is true. As guys we don’t like the thought of our woman being with another man. I hate when Ghetto Club even hints at her past, which she does sometimes… as did other girls. February Fling did the same shit all of the time. Drop hints about dudes they fucked before me. I never got that. Why would you do such a thing? To test my jealousy? To make me less attracted to you? I don’t get it. I generally just ignore such comments, because there’s really not much else to do about them. But yeah, I wouldn’t like the thought of my girl fucking another dude. It’s funny, because it didn’t matter to me…. until I started liking her. Now it matters, now I find myself wishing she’d never slept with another dude her whole life before me… when months ago when I was initially fucking her, I never cared at all about that. All guys have this problem though from what I can tell. Just ask Roosh, or hell, just read he post when he found out he was with a girl with a “rather experienced past” let’s say. Here’s a quote from Roosh’s post:
At that moment, she was dead to me. Alright maybe not dead, but the freak in the sheets and lady on the streets image I built her up to be imploded like an old Vegas casino. She proceeded to give me details as my face turned from ease and contentment to looking like I was dumping a log in the toilet. I listened to her every word as she told me how guys pounded her multiple holes during one drunken night in college. I had to stop her from telling me more. It was my fault for not recognizing the warning signs: her ambivalence towards condoms, her penchant for public sex, and her love of record-setting gangbang events where a random guy off the street has to put in just a couple strokes to make it count. I should have known.
I continued having condomless sex with her but it just wasn’t the same: I kept imagining my best friends tag-teaming her along with me, asking me if I’m “having a good time” and if she is “always this freaky.” A few more months of that, after these kinky bedroom thoughts progressed into a heterosexual gray area, I decided to end the relationship.
In relationships since then I’ve had to stop girls from opening their big mouth and telling me their past sexual history, lest the image I have of them in my head be disturbed.
It’s a slippery slope. And every girl has a past. My rational mind tells me that there is no madonna and there is no whore. All these girls are the same. Some may party more, some may have a higher number of partners, but it doesn’t really matter – it’s still the same. They all have a past, they all have thoughts and visions of other guys. Crushes, celebrity crushes. All girls are capable of cheating. That’s just the truth of the matter. Many of the girls I’ve slept with have had boyfriends. It feels great to be the other dude, but nobody wants to be the dude that’s getting cheated on.
It really makes me wonder why we accept monogamy as the norm. Rationally it really doesn’t make sense. Men want to be free and have random experiences with new women, and to some extent women do to. But, like 60 says women get into relationships because they have an agenda – the white dress, the wedding, the house in the suburbs with 2 kids. And men get into relationships to get female affection from a pure source.
What else does 60 have to say on the subject?
Just because she married YOU don’t mean she loves you the most. Women don’t marry
the guy they like best. They marry the best guy out of the pool of guys who is willing to
commit to her agenda. The guy she likes best and still fantasizes about is the sexy
adventurous guy who refused to commit.
Again, another point on the agenda of a woman from my first hand experience. I once dated a girl who was real into me and when we finally discussed our future and idea that I would never want to get married, after a discussion about it, we basically reached the conclusion/agreement that she would go off and find another dude to marry, but always sneak around, behind his back, to fuck me. She actually agreed to this. Although, she probably hates me now and I’m sure the deal is off, but just the fact that she would agree to it at the time is funny enough.
The Alternative to Marriage
Instead of getting all your female affection from just one woman you are going to need
to get it from several. It’s easy to get sex from a variety of women but it’s harder to get
affection from a variety of stable, loving women.
Affection Variety
We have two needs sex and affection. Our sexual needs require variety, whereas we
have no issue getting affection from the same woman for many years. So it makes
sense why a man would stay with one woman for a long time to get affection and look
for sexual variety outside of that relationship.
First of all you tough guys need to admit that you need female affection in your life. You
can help fill this need by diversifying where you get your female affection from. One
woman cannot provide all of the female affection you need. Get a second
girlfriend, have a few female friends, babysit your niece. Invite a friend and her daughter
over for a visit. Female affection and feminine energy has no age restriction. From
young girls to grandmothers, each woman has their own special energy that can make a
man feel good.
The Purity/Affection Issue
Second you are going to have to deal with the purity/affection issue. Because by not
committing to ONE woman you are going to be getting some of your female “affection”
from women who are having sex with other guys. She is over your house right now and
wants to snuggle with you.
Sorry guys but this is the truth of this lifestyle. You still up for it? It’s tough but you need
to deal with all of your M/w issues if you want to avoid marriage and still have a constant
flow of female affection in your life.
You may never have purity, but you will always have freedom.
Lifetime dedication to meeting new women
Third you need to constantly meet and seduce high-quality good girls into your rotation.
Not just any random Freak-Buddy is worthy of being a good candidate for the important
job of giving you the female affection you need.
For example, if you settle for any unstable woman just so you can get some scraps of
feminine affection you are going to seriously screw up your life.
Not all of these women will stay with you forever as some will move on when they find a
man that will commit. This will hurt as you love and care for these women a lot. Prepare
for some pain.
Plus these quality girls will need to be replaced again and again over the years. This
means your work is never done.
Rationally, I’ve already accepted the last point. That I’ll always be in and out of relationships. I never expect to settle down and be with one woman forever. I realize that. These women are replaceable though. I had deep feelings for both of my exes, but I realize now Ghetto Club fulfills much of the same needs that they did. As of right now, she’s a good girlfriend and she plays the role well. She seems to absolutely adore me and misses me greatly when I’m not around or don’t talk to her for a few days. I handle this relationship better than I’ve handled past ones, with being less needy, less lovely-dovey and overall more sexual, and I plan to keep it that way. In the same PDF, Sixty outlines his relationship map, and I’ll leave it on this note before this post gets any longer than it needs to be, although there’s plenty more in Relationship Roulette that I could quote from and discuss. Basically, I recommend anyone serious about this shit to read it, and perhaps the rest of 60′s material as well (I still need to read the others myself), but it’s good shit.
So, here it is, 60′s “Maintenance Program” for relationships:
Your maintenance program during the relationship:
1. Golden Rule
She likes me slightly more than I like her.
It’s subtle, but since we met she has always been chasing me. Since I have all of the
core elements in place my interest level in even the most attractive women never rises
above 90%. I know a man with super high interest acts needy by default and being put
on a pedestal is not what she really wants anyway. Or as David Deida says she doesn’t
want to be number one.
This is the meta-frame of our relationship. She worked hard to qualify for me and now
she wants to protect her investment. Little does she know I was crazy about her during
the 90 day screening process. But I kept my cool and my objectivity. I realize if I am not
the prize that all of my other relationship problems are secondary. I also realize that by
not being the prize in a world where a majority of men, advertising, TV shows, and
movies depict women as the prize isn’t a good frame to be operating from.
2. Have a busy life outside of her
My woman is not my only purpose in life. She is one piece of a complex puzzle of
needs. I also have a life full of of friends, family, career, and hobbies. I promise not to
neglect any of them. In fact, they become even more important now that I am in a
relationship.
3. Be a positive challenge
Don’t stop the tension. I understand that by entering into a relationship with you I have
signed up to be a challenge every day. I promise to remember to give you the tension
you deserve in order to keep your sexual attraction for me high. I realize all of the
challenge and tension I created yesterday no longer counts. Today is a new day and I
am seducing you again for the first time.
4. Keep doing the little things right everyday
I will avoid becoming complacent. I understand that attraction is a feeling you get, it’s
not a choice. I will NEVER take this mysterious feeling for granted by forgetting to do
the little things. The .001%. I could probably get away with some of this stuff for a short
period of time but I choose not to. I don’t want to be blindsided one day and have you
say you don’t feel any attraction for me. I know I won’t be getting a warning. At the same time I don’t want to wake up one day and look at my woman and not feel
sexual attraction towards her either. By doing the little things right I will keep her interest
level high. This will make her work even harder for me, which as a result keeps
my attraction for her strong. Being a challenge is a cycle that benefits both of us.
5. Great Sex
I realize that first and foremost this is a sexual relationship. Sex isn’t just an important
part of the relationship, sex IS the relationship. No sex equals no relationship. Our bond
is based on sexual attraction. Although we will always have affection for each other,
without the sexual component we are really just good friends.
I promise to keep fucking you good, trying new things and not treat you like a fragile
piece of glass. I realize you are BOTH my Madonna and my whore and I love you for it.