Relationship Advice on How to Fight Fair

Date de l'article : 27.05.2025
Début de l'événement : 28.05.2022
Fin de l'événement : 29.05.2022
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I was once a feisty young thang in relationships. I won’t bore you with the details just give you some relationship advice. Let’s just say that if I recounted the countless times that I embarrassed myself (and my significant other) this post would become a novel. As a matter a fact, I published a book called Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles. It’s a raw and personal account of my past relationships. I share the mistakes that I made with past loves and lovers. When relationships began to go awry, I’d argue, like many other couples do. I’d loose my cool and my confident demeanor crumbled. I would stop fighting fair. I became another woman and this ultimately ruined my relationships.

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The thing about relationships is that they are never perfect. At one point or another you and your partner will go through it. Whether it’s money troubles, infidelity, emotional distance or a lack of communication, no couple is immune to the ups and downs of love and commitment. There is, however, a way to deal with the negativity without rocking the boat too much. As women, we have to learn to deal with troubled waters without sinking the ship with dramatic antics and ultimatums. Here are seven things you should stop doing when there’s trouble in paradise, and you know you need to fight fair.

Attack Mode

By attack mode I literally mean attack mode. Some women that I know (I won’t name names, I tell ya!) become aggressive when tense. Any sign of trouble and they raise their fists. Some aren’t physical but they holler and yell. If that’s how you cope with issues then you are no longer listening. When there is trouble in your relationship you have to be able to communicate your needs and feelings without growling. Anger isn’t conducive to improving your relationship.

Taking No Responsibility

It’s human nature to play the Blame Game when we are upset. When things are going terribly wrong in our relationship, we don’t want to take accountability. It’s his fault there’s a communication breakdown. He should initiate sex, not you. And why doesn’t he take you out anymore? Look at what you are doing wrong and how you’re also contributing to the problem. Trust me, you are!

Giving Up Too Easily

It takes two to tango and the tango is not an easy dance! When there is trouble in paradise, work through it. If you throw in the towel too quickly that may be a sign you weren’t all in to begin with.

Constant Waterworks

Tears can get to a man’s heart. And women know this. Let’s not use sobbing or any form of manipulation to control our relationships. Besides, you don’t want to be the woman who cried wolf. Or the woman who is so sensitive that her man can’t express his qualms about the relationship. Sure, you can cry if that’s how you feel. But constant sobbing makes you the victim and we’re back to taking no responsibility.

Telling Everyone Your Business

As women, if our relationship is going south, we want to talk about it. We call up our girlfriends, cousins and even our mamas. This is a no-no. If you keep telling your loved ones about your relationship troubles, they will begin to dislike your man. If you just have to vent, tell the world the good and the bad.

Seeking Another's Affections

When hitting a rough patch in a relationship, some women seek comfort on the shoulders (and ears) of another. It may not be a sexual relationship but it is still a form of cheating. Emotional affairs occur often when women feel unfulfilled by their partners. Before you seek the affection of another, communicate with your partner and think about the repercussions.

Ignoring the Problem

This mistake is huge. You don’t want to pretend that nothing is wrong in your relationship. If you do, the problem will grow as will the distance. Soon you and your partner won’t even be on the same boat. YYou must face the issues head on lest you sink your coupleship.
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