{"bf_titre":"How to Deal with a Guy Who Distances Himself","bf_date_article":"2022-03-25","bf_date_article_allday":"1","bf_date_article_hour":"00","bf_date_article_minutes":"00","listefiche2":,"bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-18","bf_date_debut_evenement_allday":"1","bf_date_debut_evenement_hour":"00","bf_date_debut_evenement_minutes":"00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-21","bf_date_fin_evenement_allday":"1","bf_date_fin_evenement_hour":"00","bf_date_fin_evenement_minutes":"00","bf_chapo":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iU1lnV His Ex is Ruining Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hG6rmS Balancing Step-Parenting and Marital Harmony]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c3uknc Rebuilding a Marriage in the Sandwich Generation Squeeze]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iVjyS2 A Marriage Tested by Cancer]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/424burw His Business Crashed \u2014 And So Did Our Marriage]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bWTZOh Dating a Recovering Alcoholic]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0TToX Is It Weird to Date a Relative?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j03zCn His Cheatin\u2019 Heart]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iGUS04 What\u2019s Our Relationship Status?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0Ty5F Should You Give an Ex a Second Chance?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c0x7gM Long-Distance Love vs. Local Connection]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iYl464 Trust in a Strained Marriage: Letters in the Attic]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c6JiIX Dating Rules: Smart Strategy or Outdated Nonsense?]]\r\n\r\nTerry,\r\n\r\nWhat do you think is the most constructive way to deal with distancing behaviour from a guy? He says he has some personal issues to sort out, and he does want to see me, but not yet.\r\n\r\nI have given him the space he needs and cut contact completely. I have put myself back on the dating scene again.\r\n\r\nIf he does call in the future, I dont want to play games, but I am going to be somewhat unavailable.\r\n\r\nDo you agree, and how do you do this well?\r\n\r\nSian\r\n\r\nHello, Sian-\r\n\r\nCongratulations on getting back on the dating scene. Pat yourself on the back for avoiding contact. You're not waiting around for this guy, and that's a very good thing indeed. Your behavior demonstrates self-resepect, and that's attractive.\r\n\r\nIf the guy should call you again, I definitely understand your reluctance to play games (it falls under the Golden Dating Rule of \"Treat him as you would have him treat you, and if he doesn't treat you as you would treat him, hit the highway).\r\n\r\nHowever, if and when this man comes around, being less available is not playing games. He hasn't earned any rights to your time. Playing games entails looking hard to get. The key is to actually enjoy a full life by making plans with friends, dating other guys (as you're already doing), and keeping busy doing things you love.\r\n\r\nLet Mr. Not-Ready-to-See-You earn your attention.\r\n\r\nRemember this: Every human being, man or woman, wants to date a prize. Nobody wants to date the person who jumps when the phone rings. By keeping busy, you've eliminated the possibility of being that person.\r\n\r\nNow...\r\n\r\nI realize that this sounds just dandy, but it doesn't mean much when you obviously like this guy, and he's made himself unavailable.\r\n\r\nIt hurts.\r\n\r\nAnd it's possible that you can't fully enjoy the other guys you're dating while your heart is set on this fellow who may or may not get around to making you a priority.\r\n\r\nThe best advice I can give you here is -- and please don't gag --to work on loving yourself. I am dead serious.\r\n\r\nYou may be thinking, hey, I do love myself. Well, that's probably true to some extent, but love yourself some more. When you love yourself, the good things you attract will amaze you.\r\n\r\nIt's possible this guy who currently eludes you will pick up on your heightened self-regard and recognize you for the good thing you are. Or, it's possible you'll lose interest (painlessly) in him altogether, and you'll fall for another guy who's totally into you and never lets you forget it.\r\n\r\nNow how do you reach these new heights of self-love, you ask? Well, I strongly suggest you start repeating this very effective affirmation:\r\n\r\n\"I, Sian, deeply and completely love and accept myself.\"\r\n\r\nIf you say it as you're looking in the mirror, I suspect it will freak you out. And that's a good thing because you'll realize that you have a little work to do in the self-love department. Keep it up.\r\n\r\nRepeat it out loud (privately!) at least 25 times a day. You will feel a shift in your feelings and behavior in a week or so. What's more, you'll see a shift in the circumstances and people you attract.\r\n\r\nIf I haven't convinced you to try it, please consider this: It's been said that you cannot really love someone else until you love yourself, but I've found that no one else can love you until you love yourself, either.\r\n\r\nYou deserve the very best in life, Sian, and I suspect you already know that's quite a bit more than a guy who wants to see you, \"but not yet.\,"bf_description":,"bf_video":,"bf_site_internet":,"id_typeannonce":"1","id_fiche":"HowToDealWithAGuyWhoDistancesHimself","createur":"Anonyme","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-25 17:56:01","statut_fiche":"1","checkboxListeThematiques":null,"imagebf_image":"HowToDealWithAGuyWhoDistancesHimself_woman-credit-cards-spending-problem-first-date-533x261.jpg","fichierbf_fichier":,"date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-25 17:56:01"}